Most of us have probably said or heard the phrase “who’s your daddy” or “call me daddy” at some point in our lives. It essentially defines who or what has power over you. Most of the time we say it jokingly because we want to prove a point… But if we’re honest with ourselves there are so many things that have become our “daddy” in real life. So many things have power over us, most that we actively consent to on a daily basis by the words that come out of our mouths.
After having a conversation with a friend a few days ago, I thought about how much control anger used to have over my life. I could think about one situation for a split second and go from 0 to 100. How many of us have that same issue? We have allowed the situations of our past and even our current to be a crutch for us to do whatever it is we want to do. We use these situations to justify our issues. We say or exude things like “my daddy left when I was three that’s why I’m so angry…I have guy issues…I have trust issues…I don’t know how to be a man”. Or “my ex cheated, lied, and hurt me so I have a right to either treat other men bad or build up a wall that’s impossible to break down”.
So who’s your daddy? Your situation, your past, and the walls you’ve built up to “protect” yourself from getting hurt or your God? You spend so much time saying what happened to you that you haven’t even spoken LIFE into what is to come. Understand that there is POWER in your tongue. “Wise words satisfy like a good meal; the right words bring satisfaction. The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences.” (Proverbs 18:20-21). So what are you speaking? Are speaking things that you would like to come to fruition or are you presuming the worst? Because whatever you presume will become your “daddy” so choose wisely.
We just stepped into the season of Spring. It’s a season that has a dual purpose: to wash away the things of the past and produce new fruit and flowers. It’s one of my favorite seasons because it helps me remember that regardless of what happened before, there is so many amazing things to come. So I started believing the things I want to see in my life. I believe that I’ll reap the harvest of all the work I’m putting in (Galatians 6:9). I believe that no matter how much I’ve been hurt in the past, God has someone amazing for me (Proverbs 18:22). I believe that all the goals that I’ve written out for this year will come to fruition (Habbakkuh 2:1-2). Because if I let everything I’ve been through or even things that COULD (but have not) go wrong, I would be walking around here defeated before I even fought.
Say this every morning (modify as you wish): I have power over how I feel today. Everything that happened to me before is irrelevant. I choose to be BETTER and not BITTER. I choose to be happy in spite of everything that’s going on around me. ALL things work for my GOOD, so I have no reason to worry. It’s going to be a great day!
I love you and so does He,
A few weeks ago I blogged about the Dry Season. The dry season is a place where it seems like the productivity, abundance (money, opportunities, love, etc) dry up and you’re left feeling hopeless and discouraged. The dry season is the time for you to stay focused on God. But if I’m honest, it’s pretty hard to stay focused on God when everything around you feels like it’s crumbling right before your eyes. You’re trying to pray, but with all that’s going on you feel like your time and your patience is decreasing.
I wish I could write that it will all get easier. But it won’t. I wish I could tell you that there may not be another one of these seasons. But I can’t promise that either. I can only promise you that by looking at your surroundings and comparing your situation to others will only make it worse. Think about the last relationship you were in. You didn’t think your significant other was that bad until you saw how one of your friends, or worse someone you didn’t particularly care for, is treated by their boyfriend or girlfriend. You only want more when you see something that “looks” like more. When in reality what you had was probably good for you in that moment. Or when you thought that 80 on that midterm was a good grade, but then once you looked over at a classmate’s 93 and felt like you hadn’t studied hard enough or taken enough time on the test.
The reality is, once you stop looking at what other people are doing – you’ll be better suited for what God has called you to do. A few weeks ago I was looking at some of my peers and I got kind of discouraged. I hadn’t been doing as well as I thought on my tests, my friend circle is having issues because our time for each other is limited because of the different activities we do, I felt like I wasn’t fulfilling my purpose, and I started really missing home. My classmates seemed to be doing so much better than me. They were getting As on the tests and they seemed to have a lot more time than I did. I felt like I was losing at life because my timeline didn’t match theirs. But if I didn’t compare myself to them the only standard I would have to go by was the one He set me for and what I set for myself.
Stop looking at what you see and focus on what you’ve been called to. Jeremiah 29:11 says “for I know the plans that I have for you. Plans to prosper you and not harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future”. God didn’t say He had the plan to give you the plan of your friend, classmate, or coworker. He has a plan specifically designed for you and ONLY you can fulfill it. And His plans are GOOD. Yes you may be in a dry season right now where it looks like your grass is yellow and sad and everyone else’s in a healthy green – but even the bad things in your life are working for your good. I can’t wait to see what’s on the side of the tests and trials you’re going through, I know it will all be worth it.
I love you and so does He,
P.S. If you ever need prayer, want to chat, or just need some advice email me: email@example.com. I’m always here 🙂